The pain of going through a challenging marriage is real, it’s raw and it can be riveting.
The situation may seem hopeless and the obvious solution according to close friends and family as well as the larger society maybe divorce.
if this is you, allow me to bring you some biblical counsel:
- Recognise your real foe in marriage (THE DEVIL):
Your marriage is a threat to the kingdom of darkness hence becomes a mark for satanic attack and harassment because Satan is afraid of your union and its impact in destroying his kingdom.
John 10:10 says, “The thief (Devil) cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life and that they might have it more abundantly.”
It is important to recognize that the devil is after your marriage because his plan is to kill, steal, and destroy everything good and godly, therefore, if your joy has been taken, or your peace has been frustrated, then know that the devil is at work.
Also, Ephesians 6:12 says, “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
Attempting to resolve spiritual matters with mere logic and common sense isn’t guaranteed to yield any result unless inspired by the Holy Spirit. A spiritual approach must be adopted to crush the devil’s plans to destroy your union.
- Decide to fight for your marriage:
By recognizing that Satan is your real enemy, you’ve won half of the battle.
1 Peter 5:8 says “Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour”
(I) Start by raising a prayer altar:
Set a date and time daily to pray for God’s grace and wisdom with regards to your marriage.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” Philippians 4:6
(II) Respect and Love your spouse (Ephesians 5:25):
Love and respect your spouse as admonished in the scripture (Husband love your wife like Christ loved the church by forgiving her daily and washing her with the word of God, and wife honor and respect your husband as you would do our Lord Jesus)
(III) Seek Biblical and Godly Counsel:
Seek sound biblical counsel (contact me if you can’t find any close by) along with your spouse. Find a trustworthy, spirit-filled minister with a long-standing track record of helping to restore Christian marriages (ministers with a special grace for fostering reconciliation in marriage)
if you cannot reasonably address your situation being together in the same space due to physical abuse etc, prayerfully seek to separate for a while with the goal of coming back together once God has helped you to resolve the challenge within your home.
(IV) Have Faith that God can and will heal your marriage:
The devil will want you to believe that nothing can change, after all, you have tried for years to fix it and nothing happened. However, remember, that you cannot change your spouse only God. Of course, you have also prayed many times and didn’t see any result, but also remember that prayer with that faith is pretty much dead works.
Remember Matthew 21:22? “And whatever you ask in prayer, you will receive, if you have faith.”
Your marriage can be fixed. You can enjoy real joy and peace in your home. Have faith in God and watch God turns things around for your good.
Finally, remember, “… that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. ” Romans 8:28
In His Love,
*Written by David James.*
